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Do We Give Expecting To Receive?

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I wish to touch on the topic of Giving Expecting To Receive. Remember these are my own views, whether or not you relate or think they are true is for you to decide and discuss at the end.

So because you gave me something there’s an expectation of me having to give you something back in return. Why is this, is it because that’s what we’ve been brought up to believe in?

Forget that, I’ve no reason to give back if you expect to receive after you’ve given. Now its different if you have given me something whether materialistic or just knowledge and you don’t expect nothing in return, in my mind I think, this is the appropriate way to go about in life.

If we have a mindset of giving and expecting to receive then your life will not be prosperous as you will be banging your head against a wall complaining all the time how you’re constantly giving but yet no one has the decency of giving you something back.

Everyone knows of someone who will badger on about how they always giving but yet no one has the decency of paying back the favor. This person could be you yourself. LOL

I actually laugh at these type of people, but again speaking from experience we’ve all been in that mindset where we’ve given something to someone, but at the back of your mind, in some cases at the forefront, your thinking, ‘I hope they remember to give something back’ …. !!

Everyone in life does it in an all social groups. These occasions seem to happen when we are amongst ‘friends’. Sometimes, actually all the time, this could be the fire to an argument which causes a rift between the best of friends.

We can all think right now a time when we’ve given something to a friend of ours, slyly not expecting nothing back, but knowing and unfortunately expecting something from them at a later date.

Hmmmmm ……

Ladies would maybe have the best examples ie … Makeup, Clothing, Shoes …. Whereas Men …. Games, Jeans, Kicks, and other assortments from both sexes.

There’s been times where we’ve said,

‘Aah Don’t Worry About Paying Me Back’

…. ‘Its Okay You Keep It’ ….

‘No Don’t Worry I Don’t Wish For Anything In Return’ ….!!

Just some of the perfect examples of how we’ve been able to freely, without knowing it, give things away without expecting anything back.

Or is it a ploy, a test, a hidden agenda, for those who we’ve given our time to whether its materialistic or not.

Do we knowingly say these ‘phrases’ so that we may either guilt trip them or use it for future reference when such a subject pops up or when a time is needed when u want something from them. If you are that person shame on you. You disgust me and believe you will not get far in life with that attitude.

Honest minded people will generously give without expecting much back. On the other hand the majority of people nowadays, sole intentions are to guilt trip those we’ve given our space and time to as well as the materialistic items we’ve given.

We all can admit we have said to those we have given our space a time to that they expect them to be there for when they are needed. This again is something which affects the best of friends. As we all know you are not the only best friend that you so wish to think. People have priorities in life and for you to hold grudges on those who havent taken the recognition of what you’re trying to offer them, then move on.

You people need to get it out of your heads that from young we are taught to share, give to receive, receive to give. I now think this is all nonsense in  the times we are living in. I don’t wish to dishearten those brought up from a background where you have been taught these so-called rules of life. I’m from the same side. We can only accept what is shown to us face value, a lot of people have an agenda. We all need to unite and do the best we can for each other.

I will close now, take this post as an eye opener of understanding what is needed and how to act when someone does wish to give you something, there is no right or wrong way, but take into consideration what has been said.

Like I said we can all come away relating to these issues. It’s just now up to you to go away and think how you can change or improve the way you come across to people when it comes to situations like this.

Remember :: Don’t expect yourself to give anything back through guilt. The same with when you do give something away don’t expect that person to give you something in return at a later date.

‘Accept All Things Through The Kindness Of Your Heart’ …..

‘The True People Who Give In Life Will Refuse A Gift In Return’ …….

Well that’s me done for this post. Brief it may have been but hopefully i have covered the necessities of the topic. Any insightful feedback is welcome in the comments.

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5 Responses »

  1. It’s a thought provoking post..yes..guess we all expect something or the other in return..great post…thanx

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  2. I see where your thoughts are and at some stage we have all been there, but if i give you a gift i give you cause i want to i have never asked for nothing in return, if i had a £ for every favour iv done id be a man of many riches. i believe everyone should share equally without expectation and thought of reward.

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  3. Most people do expect something back when they give to another, but I’ve found that I’m a giver because I like to give. I’d love to have people return the favor, but my giving is not based on what I’ll get in return. I think our culture is built on reciprocity, where if I give you have to give back. When that’s not the case, that is where a problem arises. Sometimes it depends on others upbringings. When you give to people though, it should not be done with an expectation that the specific person has to give back to you…just a thought…

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  4. Wow… Great umm article, tink im on of those pple who give nd expect in return, esp on buff days yhu noe, rilli learnt sumfin.

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  5. This is a really good post. I can relate to it.

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