Hello to you,
First of all, I appreciate the time you have taken to read this brief understanding on we all trying to prove ourselves to society and each other, I wont delve to deep again, just briefly outlining the main points in this topic.
If you’ve read my previous posts I thank you, if you haven’t by all means read after you have finished this one!
Read With An Open Mind And Leave With Something You Can Relate To Or Learn From!
I’ve come to realize that in life we seem to have a problem of trying to prove a lot to people. Why must this happen?
This seems to be an endless cycle an occurrence which starts off from when we are young. *In my opinion*
We as humans are prone naturally to thinking and acting on how others portray us.
From young we have the troubles of having to prove to our family and elders that we are what they want us to be.
These expectations make us feel that anytime we meet or greet others when we grow older that we are always thinking in the back of our heads,
‘What are they thinking about? .. What do they think of me? .. Are they what they expected us to be?’ ..
These traits are placed amongst us humans and will never end till the day we are off this earth, *In my opinion*. I couldn’t class it as a fact, but I think that 95% of the time when we meet someone we judge them within the first 5 seconds of meeting them. No matter how hard we try not to its just something that comes natural to us. Now some may be thinking this could be a Generic thing, others may be thinking its something we pick up through Society and Youth. Again just think about that for a moment.
Whether or not we mean to we also seem to try to pick out the negatives of a certain individual before we even begin to think of the positives. It’s a sorry state of affairs which affects a lot of people in their lifetimes in growing up meeting new people whether as a friend or committing yourself to a relationship.
I shall touch more on proving yourself in Friendship and Relationship issues on another Article Post.
In my view the best example of wondering why people will pick us up on our negatives more than anything else is when we have questioned or wondered the following,
‘Why is it you always go in on me and complain more about when I do something wrong, but when I do something right I never hear you praise or acknowledge me?’ …..
This always happens, speaking from experience, with our Mothers & Fathers and our elders : Teachers.
Why is it they always haggle us about the things we’ve done wrong, whether its academic or behaviour, more than anything else. It’s like they expect us to do wrong so they can wipe away all the good we’ve done and push that negativity to the forefront of their minds and even our minds.
This used to anger me as a teenager even as a youth as it made me think is there any point in trying to prove them wrong with the pressure within school and society playing a big role at that point in time of our young lives. This may have been the way we are set out to be, from the way we are always pushed into situations on having to make people accept us for who we are. The unfortunate thing about that was the way these elders went about emphasizing the wrongs we were doing, making us only think negative about the person in speaking to us about what we have done. Thus making it harder to even attempt to prove to these people we are not who they portray us to be.
Some Of You Must Understand Where I Am Coming From With All That! lol
Plenty of times when It was brought up I used to throw that question out asking why don’t they ever praise or recognise when I do something good or positive. This may be something you may or may not have experienced, if so then
As I said I wont wander too much I’m not one to dribble excess.
Slowly though as you grow older and become more mature and less ignorant, we come to realize that these things are relevant in how we become who we are later on in life.
I see It as a learning curve, when told if I’ve done something wrong.
People may shy away and become recluse, but you should take it as positive criticism to better themselves. Depending on your emotional capability *lol* I laugh because we all can assume this as ourselves, if you don’t then you must not be human. And on how you can handle negativity if you can somehow overcome and keep these close you can take all this and become better than you are.
Unfortunately certain people in life after hearing things like this will become down and lead themselves to a life of trouble sometimes crime, drug abuse *the list can go on*, because they have a mentality that they feel they are not worth it and that society does not care for their interests, not wanting to try to prove that they can become better in life. It is a shame, we all know someone, whether close to us or through someone else who has committed themselves to a life of troublesome activities because all they’ve known in life is people telling them how either bad or unreliable they are ‘No Good For Nothings’ … Something I remember both my Mum & Dad used to say. *LOL*
Worry about your Character and not your Reputation, because your Character is Who You Are, and your Judgement is What People Think Of You
So take this what I’ve written and ponder. I know I havent covered what is now opening up your minds of thought and wonderment, but I can only write so much. *LOL*
Serious though this is something which we never really like to talk about or may even discuss openly, but I feel we are all the same in the way we act and respond to people’s judgements.
I appreciate you for taking the time to read this post. And like I said at the beginning if this has intrigued you then continue with my other posts below this one. Also feel free to pass the link on to get others thinking on these open-minded topics.
Knowledge and Understanding is something we all thrive for. Do not withhold this.