Where Is The Support These Days?!

Welcome back to you all who have read my previous blog posts. To those who are new I appreciate you taking the time to read this brief post.

I say brief as this is a post only really touching upon the subject of Society not supporting Up & coming talent, from which ever country you are from.

I had to briefly talk about something, especially if your someone who is trying to achieves aims and goals, how people just have no respect in supporting another persons cause.

Why must we as youths, who generally the future of the world hate and commit such a disgust when people wish to achieve something in their life.

Plenty of times I’ve seen people on Twitter promoting their Movement, Music, Videos, Blogs, etc.
Unfortunately plenty of times I’ve seen people flatly ignore their request for them to help out and just simply ‘RT’ their work onto their followers so that others may catch something they maybe wanting to know or listen to.

Its wrong to see but then again its something that happens on a daily basis. We all see it happen in daily life.
Its just sad and sorry state of affairs.

It gets deeper of course when certain people start to talk, whether good or bad about a certain movement, song, or individual talent abusing them with all types of comical and hurtful behaviour.
But then I think I guess its necessary for this to happen so that those who are getting slated can either better themselves in controlling their anger, it also makes all the more interesting to people who may be interested in the type of talent whatever it may be to learn more about it.

Call them haters if you must. I guess that’s the vision of it really.
It reminds of what Kat Williams said in his stand up comedy: American Gangsta.

…”The Hater Does Not Hate You, He’s Hating On That Escalade You Driving In” ….

What he’s trying to say for you ignorant people who do not understand that comment is that, haters who are jealous have nothing against you but they really just hating on the fact its not them driving that escalade, them counting that money, gaining that recognition.

So now you see and have more of an understanding. I will continue with other blogs post relating to this at a later date. So let me leave you to it and leave it on the note that ….

We Should Do The Best We Can To Promote Local And Worldwide Talent …. Its Not Hard To Show Recognition ….

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Man Rules Set Out For Women Around The World!

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MAN RULES

WE ALWAYS HEAR ‘THE RULES’ FROM THE FEMALE SIDE NOW HERE ARE THE RULES FROM THE MALE SIDE

THESE ARE OUR RULES!

PLEASE NOTE. THESE ARE ALL NUMBERED #1 ON PURPOSE!

1. MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS.

1. LEARN TO WORK THE TOILET SEAT. YOU’RE A BIG GIRL. IF IT’S UP, PUT IT DOWN. WE NEED IT UP, YOU NEED IT DOWN. YOU DON’T HEAR US COMPLAINING ABOUT YOU LEAVING IT DOWN.

1. CRYING IS BLACKMAIL.

1. ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT. LET US BE CLEAR ON THIS ONE:

SUBTLE HINTS DO NOT WORK! STRONG HINTS DO NOT WORK! OBVIOUS HINTS DO NOT WORK! JUST SAY IT!

1. YES AND NO ARE PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE ANSWERS TO ALMOST EVERY QUESTION.

1.. COME TO US WITH A PROBLEM ONLY IF YOU WANT HELP SOLVING IT. THAT’S WHAT WE DO. SYMPATHY IS WHAT YOUR GIRLFRIENDS ARE FOR.

1. ANYTHING WE SAID 6 MONTHS AGO IS INADMISSIBLE IN AN ARGUMENT. IN FACT, ALL COMMENTS BECOME NULL AND VOID AFTER 7 DAYS.

1. IF YOU THINK YOU’RE FAT, YOU PROBABLY ARE. DON’T ASK US.

1. IF SOMETHING WE SAID CAN BE INTERPRETED TWO WAYS AND ONE OF THE WAYS MAKES YOU SAD OR ANGRY, WE MEANT THE OTHER ONE.

1. YOU CAN EITHER ASK US TO DO SOMETHING OR TELL US HOW YOU WANT IT DONE. NOT BOTH. IF YOU ALREADY KNOW BEST HOW TO DO IT, JUST DO IT YOURSELF.

1. WHENEVER POSSIBLE, PLEASE SAY WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO SAY DURING THE T.V ADS.

1. EXPLORERS DID NOT NEED DIRECTIONS AND NEITHER DO WE…

1. ALL MEN SEE IN ONLY 16 COLORS, LIKE WINDOWS DEFAULT SETTINGS.. PEACH, FOR EXAMPLE, IS A FRUIT, NOT A COLOR. PUMPKIN IS ALSO A FRUIT. WE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT MAUVE IS.

1. IF WE ASK WHAT IS WRONG AND YOU SAY ‘NOTHING,’ WE WILL ACT LIKE NOTHING’S WRONG. WE KNOW YOU ARE LYING, BUT IT IS JUST NOT WORTH THE HASSLE.

1. IF YOU ASK A QUESTION YOU DON’T WANT AN ANSWER TO, EXPECT AN ANSWER YOU DON’T WANT TO HEAR..

1. WHEN WE HAVE TO GO SOMEWHERE, ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING YOU WEAR IS FINE…REALLY.

1.. DON’T ASK US WHAT WE’RE THINKING ABOUT UNLESS YOU ARE PREPARED TO DISCUSS SUCH TOPICS AS FOOTBALL.

1. YOU HAVE ENOUGH CLOTHES.

1 .. YOU HAVE TOO MANY SHOES.

1. I AM IN SHAPE. Whatever the shape.

1.. THANK YOU FOR READING THIS.

SHARE THIS TO AS MANY MEN AS YOU CAN – TO GIVE THEM A LAUGH…

SHARE THIS TO AS MANY WOMEN AS YOU CAN – TO GIVE THEM A BIGGER LAUGH, BECAUSE ITS TRUE!

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Do We Give Expecting To Receive?

Hello and welcome again to another instalment.

I’d like to thank those who are returning from reading my previous posts, and welcome to you if you are new. Feel free to comment and read my other posts after you have finished with this one. Like I always say,

Read With An Open Mind Leave Learning Or Relating To The Topic

I wish to touch on the topic of Giving Expecting To Receive. Remember these are my own views, whether or not you relate or think they are true is for you to decide and discuss at the end.

So because you gave me something there’s an expectation of me having to give you something back in return. Why is this, is it because that’s what we’ve been brought up to believe in?

Forget that, I’ve no reason to give back if you expect to receive after you’ve given. Now its different if you have given me something whether materialistic or just knowledge and you don’t expect nothing in return, in my mind I think, this is the appropriate way to go about in life.

If we have a mindset of giving and expecting to receive then your life will not be prosperous as you will be banging your head against a wall complaining all the time how you’re constantly giving but yet no one has the decency of giving you something back.

Everyone knows of someone who will badger on about how they always giving but yet no one has the decency of paying back the favor. This person could be you yourself. LOL

I actually laugh at these type of people, but again speaking from experience we’ve all been in that mindset where we’ve given something to someone, but at the back of your mind, in some cases at the forefront, your thinking, ‘I hope they remember to give something back’ …. !!

Everyone in life does it in an all social groups. These occasions seem to happen when we are amongst ‘friends’. Sometimes, actually all the time, this could be the fire to an argument which causes a rift between the best of friends.

We can all think right now a time when we’ve given something to a friend of ours, slyly not expecting nothing back, but knowing and unfortunately expecting something from them at a later date.

Hmmmmm ……

Ladies would maybe have the best examples ie … Makeup, Clothing, Shoes …. Whereas Men …. Games, Jeans, Kicks, and other assortments from both sexes.

There’s been times where we’ve said,

‘Aah Don’t Worry About Paying Me Back’

…. ‘Its Okay You Keep It’ ….

‘No Don’t Worry I Don’t Wish For Anything In Return’ ….!!

Just some of the perfect examples of how we’ve been able to freely, without knowing it, give things away without expecting anything back.

Or is it a ploy, a test, a hidden agenda, for those who we’ve given our time to whether its materialistic or not.

Do we knowingly say these ‘phrases’ so that we may either guilt trip them or use it for future reference when such a subject pops up or when a time is needed when u want something from them. If you are that person shame on you. You disgust me and believe you will not get far in life with that attitude.

Honest minded people will generously give without expecting much back. On the other hand the majority of people nowadays, sole intentions are to guilt trip those we’ve given our space and time to as well as the materialistic items we’ve given.

We all can admit we have said to those we have given our space a time to that they expect them to be there for when they are needed. This again is something which affects the best of friends. As we all know you are not the only best friend that you so wish to think. People have priorities in life and for you to hold grudges on those who havent taken the recognition of what you’re trying to offer them, then move on.

You people need to get it out of your heads that from young we are taught to share, give to receive, receive to give. I now think this is all nonsense in  the times we are living in. I don’t wish to dishearten those brought up from a background where you have been taught these so-called rules of life. I’m from the same side. We can only accept what is shown to us face value, a lot of people have an agenda. We all need to unite and do the best we can for each other.

I will close now, take this post as an eye opener of understanding what is needed and how to act when someone does wish to give you something, there is no right or wrong way, but take into consideration what has been said.

Like I said we can all come away relating to these issues. It’s just now up to you to go away and think how you can change or improve the way you come across to people when it comes to situations like this.

Remember :: Don’t expect yourself to give anything back through guilt. The same with when you do give something away don’t expect that person to give you something in return at a later date.

‘Accept All Things Through The Kindness Of Your Heart’ …..

‘The True People Who Give In Life Will Refuse A Gift In Return’ …….

Well that’s me done for this post. Brief it may have been but hopefully i have covered the necessities of the topic. Any insightful feedback is welcome in the comments.

Again thank you for reading this blog post. Keep your mind open and do pass this on your Social Networking sites.

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Why Must We Always Try To Prove Ourselves To Each Other?

Hello to you,

First of all, I appreciate the time you have taken to read this brief understanding on we all trying to prove ourselves to society and each other, I wont delve to deep again, just briefly outlining the main points in this topic.

If you’ve read my previous posts I thank you, if you haven’t by all means read after you have finished this one!

Read With An Open Mind And Leave With Something You Can Relate To Or Learn From!

I’ve come to realize that in life we seem to have a problem of trying to prove a lot to people. Why must this happen?

This seems to be an endless cycle an occurrence which starts off from when we are young. *In my opinion*

We as humans are prone naturally to thinking and acting on how others portray us.
From young we have the troubles of having to prove to our family and elders that we are what they want us to be.
These expectations make us feel that anytime we meet or greet others when we grow older that we are always thinking in the back of our heads,

‘What are they thinking about? .. What do they think of me? .. Are they what they expected us to be?’ ..

These traits are placed amongst us humans and will never end till the day we are off this earth, *In my opinion*. I couldn’t class it as a fact, but I think that 95% of the time when we meet someone we judge them within the first 5 seconds of meeting them. No matter how hard we try not to its just something that comes natural to us. Now some may be thinking this could be a Generic thing, others may be thinking its something we pick up through Society and Youth. Again just think about that for a moment.
Whether or not we mean to we also seem to try to pick out the negatives of a certain individual before we even begin to think of the positives. It’s a sorry state of affairs which affects a lot of people in their lifetimes in growing up meeting new people whether as a friend or committing yourself to a relationship.

I shall touch more on proving yourself in Friendship and Relationship issues on another Article Post.

In my view the best example of wondering why people will pick us up on our negatives more than anything else is when we have questioned or wondered the following,

‘Why is it you always go in on me and complain more about when I do something wrong, but when I do something right I never hear you praise or acknowledge me?’ …..

This always happens, speaking from experience, with our Mothers & Fathers and our elders : Teachers.
Why is it they always haggle us about the things we’ve done wrong, whether its academic or behaviour, more than anything else. It’s like they expect us to do wrong so they can wipe away all the good we’ve done and push that negativity to the forefront of their minds and even our minds.

This used to anger me as a teenager even as a youth as it made me think is there any point in trying to prove them wrong with the pressure within school and society playing a big role at that point in time of our young lives. This may have been the way we are set out to be, from the way we are always pushed into situations on having to make people accept us for who we are. The unfortunate thing about that was the way these elders went about emphasizing the wrongs we were doing, making us only think negative about the person in speaking to us about what we have done. Thus making it harder to even attempt to prove to these people we are not who they portray us to be.

Some Of You Must Understand Where I Am Coming From With All That! lol

Plenty of times when It was brought up I used to throw that question out asking why don’t they ever praise or recognise when I do something good or positive. This may be something you may or may not have experienced, if so then

Hi-5.

As I said I wont wander too much I’m not one to dribble excess.

Slowly though as you grow older and become more mature and less ignorant, we come to realize that these things are relevant in how we become who we are later on in life.
I see It as a learning curve, when told if I’ve done something wrong.
People may shy away and become recluse, but you should take it as positive criticism to better themselves. Depending on your emotional capability *lol* I laugh because we all can assume this as ourselves, if you don’t then you must not be human. And on how you can handle negativity if you can somehow overcome and keep these close you can take all this and become better than you are.

Unfortunately certain people in life after hearing things like this will become down and lead themselves to a life of trouble sometimes crime, drug abuse *the list can go on*, because they have a mentality that they feel they are not worth it and that society does not care for their interests, not wanting to try to prove that they can become better in life. It is a shame, we all know someone, whether close to us or through someone else who has committed themselves to a life of troublesome activities because all they’ve known in life is people telling them how either bad or unreliable they are ‘No Good For Nothings’ … Something I remember both my Mum & Dad used to say. *LOL*

Worry about your Character and not your Reputation, because your Character is Who You Are, and your Judgement is What People Think Of You

So take this what I’ve written and ponder. I know I havent covered what is now opening up your minds of thought and wonderment, but I can only write so much. *LOL*

Serious though this is something which we never really like to talk about or may even discuss openly, but I feel we are all the same in the way we act and respond to people’s judgements.

I appreciate you for taking the time to read this post. And like I said at the beginning if this has intrigued you then continue with my other posts below this one. Also feel free to pass the link on to get others thinking on these open-minded topics.

Knowledge and Understanding is something we all thrive for. Do not withhold this.

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Are All Relationships The Same?

re·la·tion·ship/riˈlāSHənˌSHip/

A relationship in which two people agree that they want to be together,

I shall be brief in this piece on relationships. Lol only because I wish not to bore you of the in-depth complexity of what a relationship is and how we go about sustaining one. I only wish to explain a key point in relationships which will happen for everyone once in their life times without a doubt.

The point of which you meet and start and the journey till when the cracks start to appear and it begins to fall apart.

So enjoy and leave with an open mind after reading this.

So you’re in a relationship and its going great or is it?

It’s a fact that for the first 3 months of a relationship its beautiful and what we call the honeymoon period of being able to satisfy each other, however that may be. But what happens when she starts to nag about your friends, calls, so-called ‘Business’, or when he starts to nag about your friends, Nights out with the ‘Girls’, calls the list can go on?

A lot of being in a relationship comes down to how you approach it and becoming mature and knowing who that person is. Another factor could be, past experiences of being in a relationship, again depending on your circumstances. What seems to happen when we do start a relationship is we have an expectation, an idea, in our minds that this is the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. *It may be different for some* I’ve no idea why them people attempt to get into relationships, their lives are a sham. Anyway ……….. This unfortunately clouds our judgement and this is why the first 3 months are usually what I call

‘The School Girl/Boy Effect’

… As we are aware when we are in the relationship we are ‘luvy and cuddly’ thinking the ‘Nothing Can Tear Us Apart’ idea, in some instances pushing our closest friends away ignoring all types of contact from anyone and everyone all because we are at that point in time ‘luved up’….

So this makes you wonder, well most of you, can relate to what I’m trying to explain. It shows how we are all really alike when it comes to starting a relationship with someone.

The expectations are at a minimum as we only focus on a few essentials these are: Physicality … Including looks, fashion sense, style etc. Humour … If you can make them laugh & Social Status … Includes Independence, Friends Circle, Jobs, Education, Credibility & Reputation.

This is just the touch of how we become attracted to someone within those areas. I know there is plenty more out there, but I’m not here to go on and on with them LOL. Now I’m only saying from experience and from what I’ve seen over time. If you disagree please feel free to debate and conflict so that we can make it clearer to myself and those reading this *ALL COMMENTS WELCOME AT THE END* lol.

After all these factors are taken into account, we are in this relationship. But Wait What Makes Us, Naah Better Yet How Do We Know We In A Relationship…..??? This has always confused me I won’t lie.

Now there is always that Social Relationship Stigma that either: No Sex Unless In A Relationship Or Sex And Then We Officially A Couple.

I can only laugh mad loud at the last one. To Men this is where the so-called ‘trap’ is LOL, but with a girl it truly was meaningful to them *bearing in mind it’s not any hoe* they felt that once this happened that this guy is going to be committed to her. To others ‘Confirming the Relationship’ can’t be different to other people’s ideas.

Now this was the main way we knew whether or not we were officially in a relationship, most of us can agree. I won’t say this is valid for everyone because of course it could be different depending on your circumstances.

But the way things go its more near reality the way we approach the opposite sex. So we in this relationship like I said, from here we have the period of blissful happiness doing the best we can to please our other half.

This includes dinner dates, cinema outings, wild sex *LOL* whatever!

But when does it start falling to pieces……???

Let your mind wander, as I know that all of you speaking from experience have a fair idea when your ‘relationship’ started falling to pieces. Especially if you are reading this and you are that person. I think the main cause of it collapsing is when doubt starts to spread through us.

Doubt is the bane of all relationships besides hearsay

Those odd phone calls, secretive talks on the phone, when they decide to pay more and more attention to what their friends are saying more than you. We all know what happens when Friends & Family get involved. I wont get into all this we can all think and ponder on that one.

Its seems at this point in time we automatically assume its over, due to our mentality of doubt running through our heads, and thinking it will soon end. The funny thing is that people will stay in a relationship just to put up with it and out of fear that they may have a depressing outcome if they break up. And this here is a serious issue for some people.

I know, and I guarantee you all know, a friend who has stayed in a relationship just to continue out of ‘fear’ that their friends and family are going to turn round and say those dreaded word, “I Told You So”. 

And this becomes the cycle that most people get trapped into only when we finally realize its over and we need to move on. For some it takes longer, that’s when we start the task of trying to erase all knowledge memories and understanding of that ‘Ex’. The unfortunate things is when people do settle after their so-called ‘Single Life’, they went through while they weren’t with someone, they will get back into a relationship and start the same thing over again. LOL

So Men/Women … Girls/Boys reading this, understand that it may not be the other person, and when you do say ‘I think it’s just me’ …. Then slap yourself. As that makes you look silly and someone who truly shouldnt be involved or committed in a relationship.

Stop lying to yourself, about wanting to stay single all your life. You want to die ALONE?? I don’t think so. Everyone wishes for Comfort.

Again I’m no expert on relationships, but expressing what i feel may be the only way that others can relate, and for others to take something away from thislearning something new or just for casual interest reading.

I appreciate you taking the time sitting here reading my little rant. LOL Feel free to post this on your pages, twitter etc.

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And on that note I thank you for reading this.

Let’s Say No To Addiction!! …………… My Understanding On The Word!!

Ad·dic·tion/əˈdikSHən/

Noun:The fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity.

Dear readers, we always say ‘Addiction! Addiction!’, without even knowing what it really is. In the best way I think, I can explain how it feels like to be addicted to a particular thing. I have spoken to several people about addiction and I always ask one simple question. ‘Can we say Addiction is a disease or will you say Addiction is a disease?’
It’s very hard to confess or admit that I have a problem with Addiction but I know very well that after reading this blog, you will know your relation with Addiction too. So we are all one when it comes to addiction! *LOL* I have made it a policy to tell the closest people in my life but sometimes the closest people themselves will just make you feel bad about it, not so fair.

Hiding It: Shame and Emotional Cycle

Most addicts harbor an urge to hide what it feels like a terrible secret, myself included anyway. Sometimes we keep secrets because we don’t want others to get hurt or allowing our emotions get to us. You feel bad when someone calls you an addict, right? We all know the things we are addicted to but sometimes we refuse to accept the fact that we are addicts. Some few hours ago, I had a call from someone very close and the person asked what I was doing at that very moment. It’s a she anyway so ‘wonder no more‘ , Yeah so I told her I was writing a blog on Addiction. She then asked, ‘Are you an addict?’ My reply was NO! *LOL* You see, it’s very difficult to accept the fact that you are an addict even when you really know the things that you are addicted to. Addicts feel an overwhelming need to use in stressful situations, and then they feel irrevocably guilty, since really they don’t want to use the stuff in the first place. I’m addicted to the use of Smart-phones, a day or two without it makes me feel like I’ve lost everything in the world so I do everything possible to get one even when I don’t get my money right. I always make a promise to myself that I will stay away from it but at the end of the day I go back to it. Jokers on Twitter will say But Did You Die!!
Daily Life
Like an addict, I always try not to think about it and trying to avoid situations that set me off. I don’t know if I’m right but I think Addiction can be linked to Love. The love we have for something can make us addicts. It’s sad when people are so bold that they are not addicts but lets talk about relationships here. Sometimes we can be so addicted to the people we go out with that we can’t afford to let them go. Even when we let them go, they still come back into our life not because of love but we are so used to them as I explained earlier. We spend our time on places like Social Networks all day when we know very well that we have very important things to do. Addiction to me is like a spirit that controls the mind, you know when you are getting there but you just can’t help. I find myself to be an addict to so many things around me. When addiction gets to a more chronic stage, we find it difficult to fight it or leave it behind. I must confess but I’m so addicted to Twitter, of which I have no insight about. I just cant explain what led to the addiction.
Blackberry and its addiction is a typical example (Daily life activities)
It’s sad when people say ‘I can’t live without my BB’! The question here is WHY?

Work Balances and Educational Challenges

Addiction can take tolls in your career and actually frame the shape of it in less than obvious ways. Addiction gets to people at workplaces and in schools. Let me know if you fall under this category. An example is Tweeting, Instant Messaging (BBM, Whatsapp, Skype……etc). Its funny when people say they are at work or in a lesson but they end up combining all these things while they work. Addiction can actually change lives and careers. Addiction is a big challenge for most students in various institutions which results in poor academic disturbance. Addiction can make you forget how to manage your time. Alie? I play video games everyday which is a very bad habit, a part of me I can’t handle
When addiction gets to you, you always want to Multitask

I personally think that giving love and understanding helps leave addiction behind Trying to understand what you are going through helps, because sometimes we don’t know how to express how it feels. Like describing an emotion, sometimes it’s hard to form in words, especially if your audience can’t fathom feeling the same way. The point is, lets give it a try. I’ve nearly ruined relationships by my inability to explain my disorder, by hiding it and by just not knowing.
A word for my Fellow Addicts!
We do love you, and we’re sorry we put you through this hard journey of ours. We don’t mean to, and we’re trying to figure out how to work on it. The trouble is, no one really knows how. *whew* that was Addiction speaking. I hope we can all try and leave addiction behind.
I Appreciate The Time You Have Taken To Read This Article On Addiction!!
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