A relationship in which two people agree that they want to be together,
I shall be brief in this piece on relationships. Lol only because I wish not to bore you of the in-depth complexity of what a relationship is and how we go about sustaining one. I only wish to explain a key point in relationships which will happen for everyone once in their life times without a doubt.
The point of which you meet and start and the journey till when the cracks start to appear and it begins to fall apart.
So enjoy and leave with an open mind after reading this.
So you’re in a relationship and its going great or is it?
It’s a fact that for the first 3 months of a relationship its beautiful and what we call the honeymoon period of being able to satisfy each other, however that may be. But what happens when she starts to nag about your friends, calls, so-called ‘Business’, or when he starts to nag about your friends, Nights out with the ‘Girls’, calls the list can go on?
A lot of being in a relationship comes down to how you approach it and becoming mature and knowing who that person is. Another factor could be, past experiences of being in a relationship, again depending on your circumstances. What seems to happen when we do start a relationship is we have an expectation, an idea, in our minds that this is the person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. *It may be different for some* I’ve no idea why them people attempt to get into relationships, their lives are a sham. Anyway ……….. This unfortunately clouds our judgement and this is why the first 3 months are usually what I call
‘The School Girl/Boy Effect’
… As we are aware when we are in the relationship we are ‘luvy and cuddly’ thinking the ‘Nothing Can Tear Us Apart’ idea, in some instances pushing our closest friends away ignoring all types of contact from anyone and everyone all because we are at that point in time ‘luved up’….
So this makes you wonder, well most of you, can relate to what I’m trying to explain. It shows how we are all really alike when it comes to starting a relationship with someone.
The expectations are at a minimum as we only focus on a few essentials these are: Physicality … Including looks, fashion sense, style etc. Humour … If you can make them laugh & Social Status … Includes Independence, Friends Circle, Jobs, Education, Credibility & Reputation.
This is just the touch of how we become attracted to someone within those areas. I know there is plenty more out there, but I’m not here to go on and on with them LOL. Now I’m only saying from experience and from what I’ve seen over time. If you disagree please feel free to debate and conflict so that we can make it clearer to myself and those reading this *ALL COMMENTS WELCOME AT THE END* lol.
After all these factors are taken into account, we are in this relationship. But Wait What Makes Us, Naah Better Yet How Do We Know We In A Relationship…..??? This has always confused me I won’t lie.
Now there is always that Social Relationship Stigma that either: No Sex Unless In A Relationship Or Sex And Then We Officially A Couple.
I can only laugh mad loud at the last one. To Men this is where the so-called ‘trap’ is LOL, but with a girl it truly was meaningful to them *bearing in mind it’s not any hoe* they felt that once this happened that this guy is going to be committed to her. To others ‘Confirming the Relationship’ can’t be different to other people’s ideas.
Now this was the main way we knew whether or not we were officially in a relationship, most of us can agree. I won’t say this is valid for everyone because of course it could be different depending on your circumstances.
But the way things go its more near reality the way we approach the opposite sex. So we in this relationship like I said, from here we have the period of blissful happiness doing the best we can to please our other half.
This includes dinner dates, cinema outings, wild sex *LOL* whatever!
But when does it start falling to pieces……???
Let your mind wander, as I know that all of you speaking from experience have a fair idea when your ‘relationship’ started falling to pieces. Especially if you are reading this and you are that person. I think the main cause of it collapsing is when doubt starts to spread through us.
Doubt is the bane of all relationships besides hearsay
Those odd phone calls, secretive talks on the phone, when they decide to pay more and more attention to what their friends are saying more than you. We all know what happens when Friends & Family get involved. I wont get into all this we can all think and ponder on that one.
Its seems at this point in time we automatically assume its over, due to our mentality of doubt running through our heads, and thinking it will soon end. The funny thing is that people will stay in a relationship just to put up with it and out of fear that they may have a depressing outcome if they break up. And this here is a serious issue for some people.
I know, and I guarantee you all know, a friend who has stayed in a relationship just to continue out of ‘fear’ that their friends and family are going to turn round and say those dreaded word, “I Told You So”.
And this becomes the cycle that most people get trapped into only when we finally realize its over and we need to move on. For some it takes longer, that’s when we start the task of trying to erase all knowledge memories and understanding of that ‘Ex’. The unfortunate things is when people do settle after their so-called ‘Single Life’, they went through while they weren’t with someone, they will get back into a relationship and start the same thing over again. LOL
So Men/Women … Girls/Boys reading this, understand that it may not be the other person, and when you do say ‘I think it’s just me’ …. Then slap yourself. As that makes you look silly and someone who truly shouldnt be involved or committed in a relationship.
Stop lying to yourself, about wanting to stay single all your life. You want to die ALONE?? I don’t think so. Everyone wishes for Comfort.
Again I’m no expert on relationships, but expressing what i feel may be the only way that others can relate, and for others to take something away from thislearning something new or just for casual interest reading.
I appreciate you taking the time sitting here reading my little rant. LOL Feel free to post this on your pages, twitter etc.
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